ANGRY

Anger cannot be overcome by anger. If someone is angry with you, and you show anger in return, the result is a disaster.

Yet if you persist in seeing this someone's anger as a tragic expression of their underlying unmet need... you will become curious rather than angry in return.  Hence I say if you are' getting angry in return, first ask your self what am i thinking that is making me angry? Choose your lens of thought with care and give that time to resonate before responding. 

For if you do this and return with – love, compassion, tolerance and patience – not only will you remain peaceful, but the other person's anger will also diminish.

NAKED NVC

An eye for eye... pluck out the lens that judges wrong and right... and replace it with the one that discerns only what gives to life. Compassion guaranteed.

Naked NVC

I did not just ask her if she was doing ok... i remained present and held the space for her to connect her feelings to her needs until she was able to release the pain.

Naked NVC

Select your lense with care. If you view the person whose actions resulted in pain as "hurtful." You will be stuck in conflict and emnity with them as the cause. If you view the person whose actions resulted in pain as "full of hurt." You will be moving forward in compassion wanting to connect and support them in dealing with the cause of that. The choice is yours...

Naked NVC

Did you ever notice that you can have lots of thoughts floating by
...but its only the ones that you decide to entertain or give your attention to that come alive? Once alive.. they can generate a whole boatload to new thoughts very quickly…of which you can again decide whether to give your attention to… or not!

Naked NVC

Interdependence: To be present with the ability to respond to another without trying to be responsible for what is their part or what is God's part.

Naked NVC

Thinking you "have" to or you "should?" Or actually meaning you are "choosing to because it is something you value?" I like the second one better... the feeling is one of empowerment and possibility... rather than a feeling of pressure and dissatisfaction. ;)

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Feeling misunderstood/judged? Or actually feeling sad and torn because needs to be heard and acknowledged aren’t getting met? I like the second one better… it allows me to take ownership and breath through my feelings… as well as take creative action or make requests to get the support I desire to make life more wonderful.

Naked NVC

I have missed a more than a few empathy opportunities by focusing on
a philosophical response to the query instead of really listening to what was alive. Fortunately empathy opportunities are a renewable resource! (albisan 2009)

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Hey, I am not calling you beautiful as an adjective comparing you to some static lumped outward image of what I have raised up as beautiful, rather I am calling you beautiful as an adverb embracing that dynamic, unique, glowing, ever growing, life giving, creative quantum of activation that shines through in the sparkle of your eye... You being You... Just as You Are. You are beautiful!!! (albisan 2009)